Living this life the best I know how…Jesus is my Savior…getting me through these moments that add up to a life….a journey. I’m a wife to Bill, a Mom to my heavenly daughter Ashley, and my son Zach. Just so we’re clear… I’m also Mom to Max, my Toy Schnauzer, and a caretaker to four chickens (Red, Peggy Sue, Ethel (my favorite!), and Lucy. I’m also a daughter and sister. Last, I’m a NICU nurse to the most precious beings on this earth. There it is in a nutshell.
Grief? Well, that has been a life-changer. Losing my precious daughter is the most wrenching pain imaginable (or unimaginable). So, what’s a girl to do? Well, I write. As I’ve done this grief journey, I haven’t found a lot of helpful books. And at 2+ years in, a lot of people no longer want to hear about Ashley or the pain that still floods my heart. Grief is a part of this life. Losing a child is not the normal part of life…completely unnatural. Yet, grief in its many forms will hit us in one way or another. Grief is a taboo subject, making people uncomfortable…it should not be. I want to bring it out in the open…to talk about it. The hard parts, the hopeful parts, the dark parts. I want others to have a voice for their grief, too. I don’t want society to shut me up because I somehow don’t meet their expectations of “acceptable” grief. I do talk about other things in my life, but grief…yeah, that’s a big one! And just so you know up front…I’m not a concise wordsmith…I travel down rabbit holes and more rabbit holes to get where I’m going. I hope you’ll travel with me down those many rabbit holes! Because for most of us…that’s life…not a straight line, but mountains and valleys and rabbit holes…and maybe a few chickens along the way!
So, welcome. I hope my words give you insight on grief, and on Ashley, and how my Savior continues to get me through each and every moment. And that you, sweet friends, are not alone on this journey of life. 💕
February 23, 2021 💕 I have been asked why I almost always use two pink hearts in my posts. 💕 Here’s the answer: 1) pink is Ashley’s favorite colour; 2) my heart and Ashley’s are forever connected. By using two hearts, I am bringing her with me to show that she is always a part…
February 17, 2021 These video came up on my photo memories today…Ashley’s last meet in 2014. I don’t remember where she placed, but I love that her ribbon was pink! She loved swimming, but she was so glad to be finished!! She was such a beautiful swimmer…such a beautiful soul. How I miss you, Ashley!…
February 6, 2021 The letting go is hard. I love holding on to things…things I can physically hold, things that have memories, things that are a part of my heart because they are memories of a beautiful past. I call myself a memory saver because I like to treasure the tangible things that are tied…
January 23, 2021 My morning devotional started with this: “The Lord will save me…”, which wasn’t really the focus of the devotional, and I kind of passed over it, though it ended with this: “The Lord delivered me. The Lord will deliver us.” Not really expecting a literal manifestation of this. Little did I know…
November 26, 2020 Spent today with my precious family, and had a very special gift for my Dad. Carol Pierce worked so hard to get this quilt made. It is perfect…beautiful! I see my beloved Ashley in every fibre, every thread. The stars are made from Ashley’s baby clothes (and one Zach blanket). So many…
October 20, 2020 NOTE: If you only read one thing, please read Ashley’s paper (the end of my post), which she wrote honoring her Papa. It’s a beautiful tribute from her 14-year-old heart for a man many love and admire, but only five of whom know him as their beloved, precious Papa. Our words matter.…
October 11, 2020 I feel her absence in every beat of my heart. I feel her absence when I look at her picture and long to touch that precious face. I feel her absence in the darkness of night, in the first light of dawn, and the waking moments in between. I feel her absence…
October 9, 2020 I have the kindest NICU/PEDI family, and am so thankful for them. If you read my last post, Pieces, this is a follow-up to it. My sweet coworker and sister in Christ, Justina, made this gorgeous piece for me after seeing my post about Ashley’s mug. And, I love that it’s something…
September 24, 2020 Ashley’s mug…shattered. The mug I have used for over a year. To have coffee every morning as I read God’s Word and talk with Him, as I think about Ashley, and talk with her. A sacred part of my new routine. Pieces. All the emotions and memories I hold so close…shared memories…
September 18, 2020 My Dad, Kenneth, is battling stage 4 squamous cell carcinoma. He underwent surgery less than a month ago. The latest biopsy showed that the carcinoma is back in his neck. After many complications and delays, he will have his first chemo treatment on Monday, 9/21. This past Monday, 9/14, he had a…